Have the Best Orgasm of Your Life

Have the Best Orgasm of Your Life

Have the Best Orgasm of Your Life

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If this isn’t enough to convince you there’s more to the missionary than just lying there, it’s time you learned about CAT—Coital Alignment Technique—a variation on the missionary position that supposedly stimulates the G-spot as well as the clitoris and encourages simultaneous orgasms.

 

You start out in the normal missionary position but with your spouse resting his full weight on you, not on his elbows. Then he moves about two inches forward so that his pelvis is over yours. With your legs around his thighs, you press up as he moves backward so that you feel gentle but direct stimulation. The key is in the pressure and counter pressure and the rhythmic coordination of movement, a slow, gentle rocking.

 

“The position isn’t automatic, but a small series of adjustments,” says Edward Eichel, a psychotherapist who developed the technique. “You never just ride or collapse.” Also, when you’re both feeling close to orgasm, he explains, “you have to wait and let it come to you—no grasping for it. You have to trust it will happen.”

 

If all these instructions are dampening your ardor, try getting the position and contact right without attempting penetration, suggests Eichel, so that the movement itself becomes a source of pleasure. “It’s a shared response,” says Eichel, “so ideal it’s almost poetic.”

 

Alas, so far the technique has eluded me, though not a friend. “You have to be rhythmic, controlled—and patient,” she says, which probably explains why I haven’t mastered it. But I am convinced it’s worth practicing: In a study of 86 men and women, half of whom were trained to use CAT, Eichel found a “staggering increase” in the number of women reaching orgasm “always or often” during intercourse—77 percent, compared with only 27 percent in the untrained group. And in a smaller study, the rise in the number of women enjoying that rare treat—the simultaneous orgasm—was even more dramatic: 50 percent succeeded, compared with 4.5 percent (I must try harder).

 

In the end, what’s really important is how you feel about a sex position. “If you feel imprisoned by the missionary or feel less stimulation that way, then you won’t allow yourself to enjoy it,” says Dr. Zussman. In which case, no amount of adjustment, repositioning or stimulation will work.

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